“When you blame others, you give your power away. when you take responsibility, you take back your power, to transform your life.”
Yesterday I recorded my second-ever VLOG/Podcast (Video Blog) for Leading From The Middle Of The Pack.
I am a bit unique in the fact that I do not like scripts. More to this point when I was a kid we used to put on one-act plays for our community and I was the one that the directors hated.
Not because I was a bad kid or a bad actor. But I HATED sticking to the lines.
What I loved was being able to put my one spin on it and make it mine. (that’s one reason I never did drama in high school, lol)
To get back to the point I’m trying to make here. I’m not a script guy, I’m more of a bullet point guy.
So as I got ready to record this vlog/podcast I had my topic in front of me and nothing else.
“Why It’s Important As A Leader To Take Responsibility For Our Mistakes!” You should check it out it’s episode 46 (shameless plug)
As I was talking through the topic, I discovered that there are really 3 reasons why we NEED to take responsibility for our actions.
The first reason is for our peace of mind.
Now you might not believe this, but I used to NEVER claim responsibility for my mistakes. I was always finding a way that wasn’t my fault.
When we find an excuse it does a couple of things to us internally. One thing that it does is it allows our mind to truly think that there was nothing that we could have done differently to get a better outcome.
There is ALWAYS something that we could have done differently and it most definitely would have achieved a different outcome.
The other thing that it does is it allows us to continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.
I believe it was Albert Einstein that said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome.”
What great wisdom!!!
If we want different results we have to change something. And when we don’t think that we could do anything different, then guess what????? Nothing will ever change. Because in our mind it wasn’t our fault, so we just keep doing the same things over and over again.
The next reason we need Take Responsibility For Our Mistakes is because of the effect it has on those who are around us.
Think about this for a second…..
Will you trust someone who says, “Hey I messed up? But this is what I’m going to do to make it right!”
Will you trust the person who says, “There was nothing that I could do it is out of my hands!”???
I know that I would trust the person who admits the mistake. You see we all want to follow someone who is human. Because that makes them more relatable.
So when we Take Responsibility For Our Mistakes we are actually making ourselves look and come across as stronger to those around us!
The last thing that I’m going to talk about today is how it looks to those who look up to us when we Take Responsibility For Our Mistakes.
Whether you want to believe it or not, there is someone who looks up to you!
You might not see them right now, but I guarantee that there is at least one being in this world that looks up to you.
Now ponder if you will for a moment, who do you look up to??
Are they perfect, or imperfect?
Do they make mistakes or not?
Are they arrogant, or humble?
Is his name Dan??? Just kidding lol.
My point here is that you don’t look up to people who are perfect. There has only ever been one human being that was perfect that ever walked this earth. And his name was Jesus!
I want to leave you with this one final thought.
If the people we look up to are NOT perfect and they make mistakes, then why can’t we make mistakes too????
Time to take action.
The next time you make a mistake, let the world know, “Hey I messed up!” Don’t expect instant forgiveness though.
It’s really that simple. Just say, “Hey guys I made a mistake. And I’m going to try to fix it.”
A Little More
As I sit here pondering (that’s a big word for me, lol) my past, all the mistakes I have made come to the surface.
Not like cream on top of milk, but more like oil on top of the water.
It’s kind of cool to look at, but I don’t really want to touch it. lol
I have made a TON of mistakes, and in the past, I didn’t really admit to those mistakes. Today is not going to be about making a list of the past mistakes I have made. Because it would be too long. Lol
No, today is going to be about one mistake that I made a while ago that I never really claimed as a mistake until just the other day.
A couple of years ago I went to this convention for marketing. I was really stoked to go to it.
After landing I grabbed an uber to my hotel and got checked in. I could feel the butterflies in my stomach as I walked to my room.
You see I do really good in crowds of people, and I don’t really get too excited about what everyone else is excited about. Or at least I don’t show my excitement. I can thank my mom for that, she is extremely good at controlling her emotions. (Thinking about that I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing because I can hardly ever read her. Unless she’s mad, then I can read her. Lol)
As I walked to my room and got unpacked I noticed that there were banners all around the hotel for the event. This was a massive place, and their brand was everywhere. It was super cool to see. But also, a little scary. What did I just get myself into???
A little while later I walked down and got registered. They gave me a name tag. Ugh I HATE name tags!! And a wristband. Then I started exploring the hotel a little bit because the conference started tomorrow.
As I walked around I would say that 90% of the people I saw either had on some type of SWAG for the event or a nametag. Again it was kind of cool, but I could also feel the butterflies building in my stomach even more.
I grabbed some dinner and went to my room for the night.
The next morning I got up and headed down to the event about 1 hour before it started. Not knowing what to expect.
As I approached the room there was a CROWD of people. When I say a crowd I mean there were a few people there. I later found out that there were about 4500 people there!!!!
Those dang butterflies came back, my mouth dried out and I could feel that it was going to be hard to talk to anyone. I mean this was a business event and I had just hired my first employee less than a month ago for the second time.
The first time I hired someone it didn’t work out because we didn’t really have enough work to keep both of us busy. It really sucked to have to tell someone that. That right there is something that no one tells you when you start a business. You are literally responsible for someone else’s family if you don’t have the work or can’t pay the bills you have to be the one to tell them.
All of those emotions were surfacing once again as I looked at this HUGE crowd. So I worked my way around them to the far side where I found a little corner to stand close to a door that I could get into the room when they opened it.
I chose not to talk to anyone about anything. Instead, I just stood there waiting for them to open the door.
The next four days were amazing. and I did end up meeting some pretty amazing people. But the mistake I made was that I didn’t play it all out. After the event, I would go back to my room. And I would do what I did that morning for the next 3.
My mistake was that I chose to go into the introvert mode when clearly I am an extreme extrovert. I mean I talk to strangers on the street and in the grocery store.
I claimed my mistake just after that conference and from that point forward I have chosen to be the person I truly am when I go to an event. That person who talks to everyone and is not afraid of anything.
But think about what would have happened if I would have said, “I did my best to talk to people and no one wanted to talk to me!” where would I be today??
Or even worse I might have told myself that I am introverted and that I don’t like groups. That would have CHANGED my entire life and business.
When we own our mistakes it allows us to grow.
So get out there and own your mistakes then use that mistakes as fertilizer to fuel your growth!!!